Jon Gosselin, Please Stop!

As I mentioned before, I was very hopeful that Jon and Kate Gosselin would patch things up, but things have certainly gotten worse since Jon and Kate have split.  The media circus has heighten the tension of the conflict between Jon and Kate.  Despite Jon’s disclosure of seeking a “higher power” the relationship between him and his family is almost at a point of no return.  The girlfriends of Jon, other “reality celebrities”, and the media have virtually wrecked any chance of reconciliation.  I cringe every time Jon says, “I’m just here for my kids… I love them.”  If he truly loved his kids then he would not engage in activities or conflicts that bring the worst out of the couple.  Kate has admitted to her own issues, but Jon’s are more public.

In a strange development, Jon was planning a show with “Octo Mom”:

There were terrible, terrible rumors going around that Jon Gosselin and Octomom Nadya Suleman were going to have their own reality show entitled, Jon – Kate = Jon + Octomom. However, Jon has had time to have a long, hard think about this career decision and has come up with the surprising decision to opt against famewhoring.

You got to be kidding me. I think it is a little late for cashing in on his family’s publicity.  However, one silver-lining could be the fact that Jon now has “spiritual advisers”:

Jon says:

“I have endeavored of late to reconnect with my deeper, more spiritual, more altruistic self with regular study sessions and counseling with Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, whose morality-centered-and-values-based advice, coupled with his profound commitment to fatherhood and family, I deeply respect.”

I do not deny the connection that we Christians have with the Jewish people, but Jon is a professed Christian and his show  highlighted in detail his commitment to his Church and God.  This seems just a little weird. This is just another development in a long line of decisions made by the reality show father.

However, maybe this is a good thing that Jon is seeking support outside his  faith. Gosselin asked a panel of religious advisers, which included holocaust survivor and author Elie Wiesel for guidance:

“What are two or three values can I use to raise good kids?” Wiesel counseled against hypocrisy: “Children see hypocrisy and they don’t respect it.”

Hopefully, his spiritual advisers will instill a  sense of healthy behavior.

Many Christians were very desirous of the Gosselins achieving fame and attention.  Now that the couple has split, where are all the Christian supporters?  Many people saw the Gosselins positioned to be beacons of light in the world of marriage and parenting.  Since the break-up, many people have lost hope for them.  However, the family can reconcile, but it will be hard. It will take a lot of trust building, forgiveness, honesty, and  healing.

If I was advising  Jon Gosselin, I would tell him if he truly loves his kids, then he needs to stop.  Stop all the fame seeking, stop dating his girlfriends, and stop dragging his kids through this mess.  The fact that his children may not see this behavior now does not mean they not see video of his behavior later. I would help them figure out if there is any possibility of reconciliation.  If not, find a job that puts him out of the spotlight, keep his head low, and spend all your free time with his kids.